Category: Advice For Women

How To Make Him Miss You So He Stays Interested In The Thrill Of The Chase

The sad truth of the matter is that guys need to chase or pursue something…or, in the case of dating…someone. It’s in their DNA. If they’re not chasing “prey”, they lose interest pretty easily.

Maybe it’s a biological problem, but men thrive off the “thrill of the chase”.  Once the thrill of the chase is over, his interest often wanes. I think every woman has been in that situation.

You know the one…

Suddenly the passion starts dying out. The texts start becoming less and less frequent. The calls less urgent. You don’t hear the same “need” in his voice that you used to at the beginning of the relationship.

It’s sad to say, but often the reason for the dissipation of emotion is that he’s started to take you for granted. He’s started to believe that you’re just going to be there, no matter what, and that he doesn’t really have to try anymore.

So what’s a girl to do to remedy the situation? How do you make him miss you and keep him interested in pursuing you?

There are a number of ways to light a fire under your man and remind him how special you are and how you deserve to be treated. All of the tactics I’m going to mention involve withdrawing a bit, and rekindling in your man that need to pursue you.

I also recommend taking a look at Lovetraction Lines.  What are Lovetraction Lines? Powerful words, phrases, and verbal techniques you can use to reawaken a man’s need to pursue and protect you.

Every girl should be armed with a few of these!

When you withdraw and play a little bit “hot and cold”, it alerts a man to the fact he could lose you, and more often than not, that’s enough to get him to put more effort into the relationship again.

With that in mind, let’s discuss how to make him miss you using three very simple techniques.


1. Make Him Wait


When he sends texts and when he calls, don’t be instantly available every time. Let some time elapse before you respond, and don’t pick up the phone on the first ring. Sometimes, let it go to voicemail. Then, call him back later.

I’m not advocating emotional torture or anything like that, but if you want him to miss you, then you can’t be too available. He’ll work harder for your attention when he understands he’s not always your top priority. Make him miss you by making it clear that you actually have a life that doesn’t revolve around him 24/7.

If you’re always available, he won’t miss you. He’ll just take you for granted.


2. Make The Sex Memorable


Actually, the above should read “make the sex memorable…when you allow him to have it.” Again, this has to do with reminding him of what he has, and keeping him constantly wondering about where he really stands with you. Remember, he’s going to chase you more if it feels like he hasn’t quite reeled you in yet.

Don’t always be up for sex when he is. If he’s in the mood, let him wait. Tease him a little bit with some dirty talk and make him chase after you.

When you finally do consent to get back into bed, make the sex absolutely mind-blowing. I should mention that it’s no fun being in a relationship devoid of physical intimacy, so don’t withhold it for too long. After all, you aren’t creating your own little “sexual torture chamber”.

Rather, the idea is to simply keep him guessing.


3. Live Your Life…And Tell Him About It


If you want to know how to make him miss you, this is one of the most effective ways. Don’t stop living your life for him. You don’t want him thinking that all you do all day is sit around waiting for him to call.

Spend time with friends. Don’t text him all day long with updates. Let him wonder about what you’re doing and who you’re doing it with.  Then, at the end of the day contact him and share your experiences. The more fun you’re having without him, the more he’ll think about you, the more he’ll miss you, and the more he’ll want to be a part of your life.

Make a guy miss you by being just out of reach so he never quite gets enough of you. That’s how you’ll keep him locked into the thrill of the chase.

5 Reasons You’re Still Single Even When You Don’t Want To Be

Many people think that in order to be happy, you must be successful in finding “The One.”

That’s the reason why most individuals spend a lot of time meeting new people and going out on dates, with hopes of meeting their soul mate. It doesn’t make any difference how many people you meet, the number of parties you’ve attended, or the number of dating sites you’ve joined. There are possible reasons why you haven’t attained your goal yet.

Reason #1: You’re not yet ready for “The One.”

Whenever I’m working with a client whose dream is to find true love, my first question is, “Would you be ready to commit if the man of your dreams is already waiting outside this door?”

Oftentimes, this type of question catches women off guard, so let me tell you something…

If you’re not ready to spend your life with someone, either internally or externally, you’ll have a hard time welcoming him/her in your life. Shame on you for saying that you want Mr. Right to appear already. It doesn’t matter how many times you say you want them.

If you feel otherwise, you’d just give each other a hard time.

Reason #2: You don’t have any patterns at all.

Perhaps, you’re trying your best to date different kinds of people, but if you don’t know what you really want, your standards, and criteria, you might end up dating the same person, but in a different package.

I’m very much aware that it’s hard to break old habits or put things straight, but Mr. Right might be holding a bouquet of roses, waiting on the other side of your comfort zone. You need to explore, break the old habits, and be ready to form a healthy, loving relationship.

Reason #3: Dating out of fear.

There are two kinds of relationships: love-based and fear-based. As you enter a relationship, it could be either of the two.

Love-based is a form of relationship where both of you are emotionally mature and ready to spend the rest of your life together. You could also live alone, but you’d rather share your life with that special person.

On the other hand, a fear-based relationship is being with someone for all the wrong reasons– selfish reasons. You don’t want to be alone, you’re thinking that you’re already old and you need to find someone soon, or you feel guilty to leave the person you’re currently with, even when you don’t love him at all.

Reason #4: Not being yourself.

The right person will love you unconditionally, no matter how eccentric or flawed you are. Thus, you should be yourself and accept who you really are. At the same time, you should also strive to be the best person you can be. Express your opinions and don’t hide behind a facade.

Keep in mind that if he loves you, he’ll also love your quirks and peeves without judging you. Even though this wouldn’t make everyone like you, the right person will still be attracted to you.

Reason #5: You’re confused about yourself

If you want to set things straight, know what kind of partner you’re really looking for. Come up with a top 3-5 must-haves, as well as deal-breakers. Stick to them no matter what.

For must-haves, as much as possible, it should be character traits, such as: a man who’s a hard worker, or a man who’s very devoted.

On the other hand, your deal-breakers could be based on the bad events with your exes that you don’t want to experience again. For example, you’ll never date someone who’s rude, self-centered, or arrogant.  So, if your date is an hour late, very vain about himself, or a brat, that’s your cue to exit, but do it with grace.

These reasons should have an impact in your search for ‘The One.’ It’s not an easy process, but in the long run, it’ll give you a happy ending.

7 Things Men Want In Women And Relationships

We might be tempted to think that men and women have different needs when it comes to relationships, but the truth is the two genders are not so different after all.

Everybody needs to feel loved, appreciated, complimented, and respected, as these are universal values that everybody cherishes. That being said, no matter if you are already involved in a long-term relationship with a wonderful man, or you are looking forward to starting a new connection, here are 7 of the most important things men are looking for in women and relationships:

1. Men Want To Feel Admired

If a man does not feel respected and admired, he will seek validation somewhere else. Complimenting your man every now and then is important – just think about how wonderful you feel when somebody dear to your heart pays you a honest compliment!

Same goes with support – men really need a supportive partner regardless of what their motivations and goals are in life.

2. Men Want Compatibility

It is almost impossible to find somebody who shares the exact same hobbies and passions that we do, but even though not every woman is into football or basketball, men are still looking for somebody who appreciates their hobbies and takes interest in them (even if that means sitting through a Super Bowl).

It all comes down to making a small compromise, every now and then – one that must go both ways!

3. Men Want A Woman Who Loves Them For Who They Are

This is actually a general rule that applies to both genders, as we all want somebody who genuinely appreciates us for who we are and who does not try to change us in any way.

If you try to change your man, then you do not really love him; you love the image of him that you are projecting inside your mind.

4. Men Want Women Who Can Think And Act Independently

Men want to feel needed in a relationship, but no man wants a woman who depends on him for everything and who follows him around like a lost puppy.  If you want to attract and keep great men, you need to have a life of your own.

5. Nobody Likes A Jealous Woman

Jealousy has been around since the beginning of time, and it has caused people to break up, to murder other people, and has even started wars.

Some men consider a bit of jealousy to be very attractive.  They perceive it as a sign of love and affection, but there is a very thin line between being slightly jealous in the cute way, and paranoid to the point where the relationship becomes a real nightmare for the man.

6. Men Want Women Who Know When And How To Communicate (In A Language They Can Understand)

Communication is an art, and it is the key to a healthy and blossoming relationship.

However, it must be said that communication can either make or break a relationship, and it is entirely up to you to decide which one it is. No man likes a woman who talks them to death – being a chatterbox can be fun at times, but being excessively talkative can be extremely bothersome and exhausting.  Sometimes men need silence and alone time, and it has nothing to do with you or anything you did or didn’t do.

7. Men Want Women Who Don’t Nag

Last, but not least, if there is one thing men dislike more than just about anything, it’s a nagging woman.  If you want to keep a man around, just don’t do it.  It’s as simple as that.

Why Men Pull Away – Are You Unknowingly Driving Your Man Out The Door?

Have you started to notice that the man you used to love has changed? That he no longer acts the way he used to when you two first dates?  If so, then the chances are that you are trying to figure out why he changed, blissfully unaware of the fact that in many cases, men change only as a direct consequence of their partner’s actions.

Was he the type of gentleman who always opened the car door and surprised you with a nice, fresh bouquet of flowers, every now and then, yet now he barely does any of that? There are many reasons why men change their attitude, and while some of them have absolutely nothing to do with you, there are some aspects related to your behavior that might have directly influenced him.

If you noticed that you started to argue increasingly often lately or that you criticize each other more than ever before, then the chances are that the two of you are slowly growing apart, and if you do not act quickly, your marriage may go down the drain before you even realize it.

However, before you move on to blaming your man for no longer acting as he used to, it is very important to ask yourself several basic questions that will help you understand the situation better, and go back to being the amazing couple everybody used to envy.

Analyze Your Behavior First!

If you have noticed that your man is no longer as romantic or gentle as he used to be during the first few dates, then it is crucial to ask yourself what happened in the meantime. Did one of you lose interest in the other one? Did you break his trust? Did you listen to him whenever he wanted to share something? Did you make him feel respected and appreciated?

Deep inside, men want to be respected, loved, appreciated and cared for just as much as women do, even if they do not say it out loud. If he feels that you have grown cold and distant, his actions will only reflect yours. One thing is for sure, though: the man you have fallen in love with is still there, trapped deep inside, and all you have to do is to convince him to come out and play again.

Taking responsibility for your own fault is a very difficult thing to do, as it takes courage and objectivity to admit when it’s your fault. Partners tend to criticize each other and to complain about things they do (or do not do) too often, instead of cherishing their true values and qualities.

We often tend to take the things we have for granted, we forget to appreciate and love what we have, and we often tend to go behind the back of our partner or to put him down, simply because we cannot cope with our own fears and frustrations.

If you can stop for a second and analyze yourself objectively and realize that you identify with one or more than the situations described above, then you have just answered your question: your man changed because you did, and the only thing for the two of you to resume your marriage, friendship or relationship is to simply “reset” your personalities and to go back to the people you used to be.

Mutual trust, respect, honestly and genuine love are the key ingredients for a long-lasting connection.